A book review:
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man
What men really think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment.
By Steve Harvey
"Steve Harvey, I love you.You are as cute as it gets with your devilish charm."
He is so damn cute with those dimples and how he wants to help out the ladies of the world.
It is no longer a secret. Steve let the cat out of the bag.
I highly recommend this book for all of you ladies out there wanting to be aligned with your power and truth and change your relationship with men to be more rewarding.
This is what I've been talking about ladies. Raising your standards and in turn the men will have to step up their game, making it so that the results being, we all, men and women, will feel more fulfilled and satisfied in relationships.
Now it is a mans' point of view. This is what men think they do not want you to know and turns out it is for their own good.
Steve says,
Every man has a plan. A lady deserves to know what your plan is.
He uses the clever metaphor of, Men are all fishermen. Sports fishermen and trophy fishermen, the keepers. You have got to present yourself with your standards and quit lowering your standards. Set your requirements up front, so when the guy hooks you and reels you in, he has got to know that this is business. "You hook me, we are going in the boat and we are going home."
If you want to present as the throw back fish then you will be thrown back in.
Men are simple creatures (this is important to get) and only need 3 things:
1. Support in their venture and pursuit of purpose, of who they are, what they do and how much money they make.
2. Loyalty of love and that you belong to him and....
3. The Cookie
He talks about the three P's:
1. A man's love is not like ours. Men show their love by Professing that you are theirs by giving you a title, "This is my lady", he has just placed you in the most special part of his heart. It is an unwritten rule amongst men that, "This is my lady" means, she is off limits. If he introduces you as a friend then Steve says you mean nothing to him and suggests you move on because you deserve better than that.
2. Providing for his women comes next, that once he has claimed you and you have returned the favor, his purpose is to bring home the bacon.
3. Protect you, is a part of a real mans' nature and is very attractive to us women.
I get from Steve that we as independent women need to allow for our men to feel motivated to profess their love to us by setting high standards up front, provide for us in some way like letting him romance us and relax into that and to motivate him to want to protect us.
If we put ourselves forward in a way that says, "We do not need a man." Then that man will feel that energetically and pass you by or throw you back in.
Steve says, It is the woman that determines the standards and controls everything. Whether there is sex, a date or touch. men can not kiss you or hold your hand unless you let them.
Chivalry is not dead. Women set this standard and must raise the bar, it just has not been a requirement lately.
I say, "Do not relinquish all the power to get outside acceptance from another person."
Keep your standards up, say if you want to be with me this is what you have to do. This is what it will take to get me.
The 90 day rule:
No sex for 90 days. There is a probation period just like when you start a new job. Before they get the benefits of The Cookie, you must check out if whether they are worthy or not. Slow down, you can not drive men away.
Men know that we are always changing the rules, they are aware of how women act desperate, and that women think there is a shortage of good men.
Men play on this.
Men created the word Gold Digger, so women will not ask us for nothing. Also we invented the word nagging so that you will quit badgering us and require less of us.
"We need to talk", is the worse term you can use. You just drove a nail in his forehead. If you want to talk call your friends. Men will want to fix it.
Great advice Steve and thanks so much for sharing.
I say, get the book and pass it on to friends and daughters. It is really funny, informative, entertaining and well intentioned, for the goodness of the whole in mind.
It was easy reading. I read it in a day and really enjoyed it.
~Katherine Lia
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