I have to tell you that sometimes I really do not understand the reactions of a man?
I am sometimes left baffled and taken back a bit?
For a second I even get the thought of giving up on men altogether. Notice I said for a second. Well maybe two? ;-)
The frustration comes up when I seem to be the only one that wants to understand the other in relationship.
I am not talking about everyone here nor am I criticizing.
This is not a case of who is right and who is wrong.
As it usually turns out instead of giving up all together, I choose to seek to understand the other persons unique point of views to the best of my ability.
In doing so I find a much deeper truth which becomes very valuable to me for growing and learning in relationships that makes me a better person each time.
It allows me to feel safe.
Seek to understand, and you'll be understood.
We can both have it our way together.
What a great and beautiful concept.
I know that men desire to be understood and appreciated for their efforts.
So it makes perfect sense for a man to perhaps practice this incredible skill of taking on the other persons perspectives as well, before reacting in a way that could have possibly been misunderstood by him?
Women most certainly appreciate it when a man makes the effort to understand us as well.
As a matter of fact you would be more likely to get your needs met by the woman in your life if you were to practice this skill more often.
Simply put, women need to feel safe and loved to feel loving and this is a definite way to provide that need for her that will serve you very well in the long run for the both of you.
Another win win.
This is a skill for men and women to practice that is easier said than done, it is not something you just acquire over night.
As you practice this skill and are able to step outside your ego with awareness, you get into more of a place of being emotionally and mentally centered.
By experiencing this practice of being in the other persons shoes long enough, is to truly feel what it is like to be the other person in your relationship and how they experience you.
It truly is amazing what you learn when you do this and a great way to experience and share a loving and lasting relationship with one another.
Just as Gandhi would always prepare to negotiate with world leaders.
I put on the man's unique point of view like it were really mine and walk in their shoes for a moment in time.
Women's needs are different than men's needs, let's remember the importance of this and that this is what attracts us to each other.
How we feel loved as women is not necessarily how a man feels loved.
Do not resist our differences but seek to understand them.
This valuable skill is a skill that can be used with anyone you meet, at the office for example. You will be sure to experience a shift for the better in your life.
People will naturally respond to you more attentively as you seek to understand them.
We all love to be understood.
This skill allows us in relationship to see that our point of view is not the only way to look at things and opens us up to different perspectives and maybe a better way to approach things that you may not of thought of.
This allows for more clarity, a higher level of communication for negotiations in relationship, whether that be in the dating stages or the committed stages and everything inbetween and beyond.
I continue on this path with my head held high knowing I am doing the best that I can.
I open my horizons by changing my perspectives, which really can be the makings of a miracle.
By seeking to understand how another person sees things it quite simply, broadens your perspective from which you can make choices and actions.
On the other hand by contrast, when you limit your perspective with your own narrow opinions, judgements and expectations by continuing to act the way you always have in the past, you keep creating the same situations and outcomes you have always created.
Is it working or not working?
As 2008 ends and 2009 approaches I get in touch with those things that no longer serve me and I let go to make room for new things to come into my life.
This awareness alone takes me to new heights.
I say thank you to those men that came into my life this year and showed me what I needed to see within myself to know more of who I really am and get clearer of what I truly desire to manifest in my life.
I know everything is always perfect and we all are exactly where we need to be right now.
I will see you next year, in the year of creating your life as you desire and seeing it manifest.
Keep on aligning mind, body and spirit with your truth and 2009 will be the year of magic and manifestation in your life.
Powerfully attracting your people, your desires and your perfect compatible mate that will compliment and support your world respectfully and authentically.
Happy New Year to all of you!
Be safe!
Stay with me on this journey for more Romantic Alchemy and the exciting merging of Financial Alchemy coming up soon.
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