Several years ago I came across this book that changed my life forever.
It is a lifestyle, a way of living from moment to moment.
By integrating The Four Agreements into my life I was able to stop that repetitive loop inside my mind that would put me in a place of beating myself up over and over again, which never served me very well at all.
Experts say we repeat 99.9% of the same thoughts in our mind loop today that we played yesterday.
Unless we do something differently, we keep repeating the same patterns.
"I wonder why he or she didn't call me?" "What did I say?" "I must of said something or done something wrong?"
Neediness is a relationship killer for both men and women. It is a big turn off.
It only takes a small shift to make a difference.
Becoming more self aware in the moment is the most powerful way to create these small shifts and positive changes.
By abiding by the four agreements I literally transformed my life and found an inner peace within, that I never had experienced before.
Now if I have any questions I clarify it with him by using calm clear communication so that there are no misunderstandings between us as they come up.
I am a very confident woman these days and I trust the way a man wants to pursue me.
This gives me the freedom to decide whether or not he is for me by the way he presents himself with what he has to offer respectfully.
Even though I am a very independent woman, I am intrigued by chivalry.
I personally prefer him to call me in the beginning during the courtship stage.
Women typically enjoy momentum and connection of some kind. I know I do.
To me this demonstrates thoughtfulness and gives me the feeling that he is interested in getting to know me more.
That he is into me, which is a lot more fun, especially if I am into him.
It is respectful.
For me it is the sweet little gestures from him, that really warms my heart and keeps me attracted.
In his book 'The Four Agreements' Don Miguel Ruiz provides a perfect practice for maturing and becoming more attractive along a spiritual path of learning and growing in relationship with others.
1. 'Be Impeccable With Your Word' - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. 'Don't Take Anything Personally' - Nothing others do is because of you. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. 'Don't Make Assumptions' - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. 'Always Do Your Best' - Your best is going to change from moment to moment / it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Since your thoughts and words create your reality The Four Agreements help you stay aligned with what is your truth and allows you to put your energy into focusing on what you really want to manifest into your life, instead of what you do not want to manifest.
"Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely."-- Auguste Rodin
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