Romantic Love: Does It Really Exist?

My dear friend Carlos, that I am truly grateful for, has just asked me some wonderful questions that I hope to answer and to spark some responses and true expressions from my readers, so that we can get some different views spoken about this topic and learn from one another.

Does romantic love truly exist?

Hi Katherine,

Well, I'm back and about. How goes your dating life stuff? it makes it seem rather hectic I think on your site. I dunno tho. I assume there is a perfect goal of something final which would lead you to your end point of finding the "One true love?" or do you feel as I am beginning to in part that "Love" is a condition of a biological imperative to reproduce and that once that has been achieved things seem to fade away much as they do I am sure in the wild with the exception of a few lucky breeds of birds who actually truly mate for life.
sorry if I seem to babble :(
~Carlos

Hi Carlos,

Yes, it does come down to the reptilian brain hard wiring us differently as men and women, which is the animal, instinctive biological part of our brain.
Yes, I believe in a blissful romantic love.
You called me a muse once. now I am calling you my muse. ;-)
I actually woke up this morning thinking a great blog post would be about explaining the reptilian brain and another about romantic love and how it exists if you believe it does.
Pretty cool huh? We are on the same wave length. Keep on babbling. ;-)
Please read my blog Carlos, in honor of you, it was born.
~Katherine

Hi Carlos,

Yes, it does come down to the reptilian brain hard wiring us differently as men and women, which is the animal, instinctive biological part of our brain.

This tells the man to breed in order to reproduce and keep up the population for survival.

This tells the woman to be with a strong man that can provide and protect her and her offspring for survival.

A man can breed potentially 30 days in a month getting 30 women pregnant. Something like that. You get the idea, right?

A woman can only become pregnant once a month and is out of commission for reproduction for 9 months and if breast feeding can not reproduce for that length of time.

Which can go 5 yrs, as seen in third world countries this is very common.

In the early days, if a woman is rejected by the man she was chosen to be with, it meant she would be rejected from the tribe, which meant death.

This is still hard wired in us. Which hopefully if made aware, you men can be a little more understanding of why women get so emotional and confused around when you retreat.

Maybe think of thoughtful ways to minimize this. Like emailing a sweet note that says something like "You are desirable i just need my space. It's that retreating guy thing again."

Without leading her on if the case is different of course.

If you are no longer interested, then it will be the circumstance and maturity level of the man that will determine how it is handled.

Hopefully in a mindful way.

Mindfulness and kindness will come back at you ten fold. As will the negative opposite response to a situation.

These Universal laws are worth taking heed of.

Also this knowledge could help women know this about themselves and readjust this emotion simply by becoming aware in the moment and seeing that you are now safe with a roof over your head. That there are people around you that love you that will give you the support you need.

If you learn to embrace this, you will not be so hard on yourselves and you will react differently from a place of authentic power.

You will have better clarity on why these instinctive feelings are suddenly triggered.

There are a lot of men out there after all. Lot's of fish in the sea, as my Dad would of said.

The beauty is, there is someone for everyone.

Believe and it is so and it is. This makes it inevitable.

It is having faith in the larger scheme of things and a deep knowing that all is perfect.

That much is going on behind the scenes that you can not always see.

The trick is to create that great life now.

If you want to receive more love, give more love to yourself first then to others.

If you want to receive more money, give more money away to charities.

I believe in a blissful romantic love and that it does exist for anyone, on any part of their journey.

Usually when you least expect it.

A love so deep, that deepens with time, on so many spiritual levels by being with that special someone.

So get busy living the life you desire by starting with yourself and getting your own needs met by you first.

How far down the rabbit hole do you want to go?

Comments

[Robert]

Aloha Katherine,

I simply love your blog, it filled with a flowing grace that is quite uncommon, and yet… I find myself intrigued. I found one statement to be “generally” generic, “In the early days, if a woman is rejected by the man she was chosen to be with, it meant she would be rejected from the tribe, which meant death.
This is still hard wired in us. Which hopefully if made aware, you men can be a little more understanding of why women get so emotional and confused around when you retreat.” While I believe this true of paternally structured cultures, this statement would not aptly apply in maternal societies. Personally, I feel that humanity has lost much due to the dominion by males. There is no balance and, in large people don’t understand or even have a glimmer of what a balanced society would be like or mean to humanity as a whole. We need to seek a balance in all aspects of our lives. The beauty of this is that one day I may exhibit masculinity in a given situation, and the next day a more feminine approach may be appropriate. We all can find this magical balance and play the mystical harp strings while we dance our life’s journey. I find that your blog captures this essence. It’s beautiful, mystical, entrancing, while containing an air of mystery, which makes all of this uniquely YOU! Bravo and many blessings for you and your magnificent words of wisdom.

Now, discovering you, is a two step process, first we must embrace our light and second we must step into it with unabashed passion. Which, again my friend you have eloquently done. As I progressed along my personal path of stepping into my light I found that I love “women’s” emotions whether they be presented in the form of a Rembrandt or a Picasso, they all are resplendent and contain many lessons. I personally, have chosen to embrace them and would hope that they would be embraced by both the man and woman with compassion and grace. This in my opinion will allow each of us especially in relationship to fully pursue our dreams. I have been on a quest for so many years, believing, dreaming, envisioning and keeping faith in this exactly, “By being together in this loving supportive relationship you end up creating something much bigger than yourselves, that blesses the world and radiates outward this beautiful joy and passion as you dance.” I know this type of relationship exists and that I will find it gracing my doorstep. I humbly present my words for your consideration.

Aho!

Aloha nui loa,

Runninghawlk

[Cameron Sharpe]

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