The following paragraph was written by a young man, my new friend, that I have been responding with via email. This is in response to him finding my blog:
I have found you ;) awesome :) I like your site. I think I am done dating unlike you. I just don't feel right now that there is anyone out there who is compatible with me. Kind of sucks, but I'm sure ill grow to accept it in time.
So many people find themselves in this place of discouragement as they get out there into the dating world as Carlos has.
You happily put your self out there because you are ready. Meeting new people can be fun and exciting and can get you out of the same ole, same ole.
You date for a few months, maybe years and are really giving it your all.
Then you realize that there are not many people out there that seem very compatible with you.
Quite often you have chemistry for them and they are not interested in you and visa versa.
What is this all about?
So you come to this conclusion that there is nobody for you and the acceptance of, you are never going to find someone that connects with you, is the key.
I'll say it sucks!
Luckily there is another way folks!
There are untapped perspectives that have yet to be revealed to you.
You get the life you believe you deserve. (more on this in future blog posts)
I dated a man last night. He told me that getting up early in the morning to watch the sun rise was a guy thing.
I questioned him with curiosity. " I love to get up early and watch the sun coming up, what do you mean a guy thing?"
(The energy at sun rise and sunset is so romantic and incredibly peaceful and beautiful. Oh my gosh, come on back Kath)
He said that all women like to sleep in and he has never known a woman who enjoyed waking up early to see the sun rise as he so loved to do.
This is what he believed to be true.
A belief is your opinion of what you think is true, whether or not it is.
I said to him, "If you believe she/he does not exist, she/he does not. If you think she does exist, she does."
Remember a change in perspective is a miracle.
This creates the desired changes in your life.
The way to inner peace and happiness is to practice being present, in the now.
There are many tangible ways to do this as you live your life.
I will start you off slow so you can adjust as you practice and experience for yourself the breakthroughs, the aha moments and the clarity that you get on this magnificent journey of self awareness and actualization.
You do not have to work on yourself for one more second except to become aware of your thoughts and not judge yourself for them.
This is powerful stuff.
Really. I kid you not.
Become aware and be gentle here, always.
Remember you are not your thoughts, you are the awareness behind your thoughts.
It is up to you to become self aware.
This is where all of your answers are, within you. No one knows you better than you.
Tap into your inner intelligence by tuning into yourself.
Start a routine every day, pick a time that works best for you, a time to quiet yourself as best as you can.
The key is to notice without judgment, the thought. Observe it as it passes by and disappears like passing clouds in the sky.
Bring your attention back to breath each time you find yourself drifting and say to yourself, "Oh isn't that curious another thought that took me away from the now."
Be here now, follow your breath.Quiet yourself. Breathe. Envision a beautiful white light above your head, breathe it through the top of your head and down your spinal column. From your tail bone and through your legs and feet, breathe this light into mother Earth. Visualize the light taking up root and grounding deep down into the Earths' core like the root of a tree. Now anchor your root to something there. Feel this nurturing energy come up through your legs from Mother Earth and up through to your heart. Expand and open your heart by visualizing and breathing out into the room you are in. Expand out more by filling up your house with this heart energy, then out into your community and out into the world.
You are now present, fully connected with Source(Chi, Life force energy) and grounded.
This is the energy that fills us up with the love that we all yearn for.
Yearn no more.
Learn to harness this and all your needs will be met. The love you seek is not outside of yourself it is within.
The experts say that when you fall in love it is you that you are falling in love with.
The other person is not making you feel that way, you have opened up something within you that is you and feels great. Chemicals included.
This means you can tap into that feeling anytime you practice loving yourself first, expanding your heart and living in the moment because that feeling is you.
All I need is water, a good Chi buzz through my whole body, a piece of dark chocolate and I am good. ;-)
Anything beyond that is frosting on the cake.
Like for me, I am ready and committed in allowing one thoughtful, intelligent, compassionate, successful man, that is in his integrity to come into my life and romance me.
This is the icing on the cake that I'm talk'n about.
Connecting and grounding will allow for you to ask the question of the day and listen carefully for the answer from your highest intelligence that you may act on.
Asking a clear, concise question, gets you a clear concise answer. As opposed to vague questions, getting you vague answers.
Also, 'order up' to the universe your 'in the moment' needs and desires, the icing on the cake.
The more playful and light you are and the more you let go of any attachments to an agenda or an expected outcome, the faster it will arrive.
After you ask your questions from your heart space, it is very important to then breathe that energy down to your solar plexus (upper abdominal), which is your power center and go about your day from this place of clarity and strength where you can always think from your heart.
Being strong in your vulnerability is possible here, as you integrate into your wholeness.
This is a very powerful position to receive your truth from a place of inspiration and responsibility.
There is more to you than you are aware. Explore it.
Now is the time of your life.
Living in the moment is a practice that is an unbelievably fascinating journey.
Dating will be a desire again soon, for some it will take longer, this is ok.
Always listen to what's best for you by tuning in and not relying on other people outside yourself to tell you what is best for you.
You, know you, best.
Fill up all of your need tanks first.( I will talk about needs in another blog post)
By knowing yourself more and getting your needs met from within yourself first you become more attractive to the opposite sex.
What happens when we practice anything? We get better at it, right?
I highly recommend a sabbatical for all peoples to take the time out to get in right relationship with themselves first.
Being ready to date will come in perfect timing.
I am putting together a workbook and CD's to help you along on this new perspective in the dating world that will be the continued process of living in the moment and learning more about yourself through the relationship of interacting with other people.
This process is getting you aligned to powerfully attract with ease the people you were meant to meet.
Not everybody is your people and that is ok.
This is the beginning of aligning your truth with body, mind and spirit.
The people that resonate with you will come into your life as you will attract them.
This is when that special someone will show up when you least expect it.
Start by doing the steps outlined here: grounding and connecting meditation and becoming aware of your thoughts as the awareness behind them in every moment of your life.
Once you get to this place of being grounded with understanding and clarity on your own, you will be ready to learn more about yourself by becoming aware of how the world mirrors back at you in relationships and how to integrate that knowledge.
What questions or frustrations are you having with dating and relationships?
Share your Aha moments with us, while practicing the strengthening of your living in the moment muscles.
Carlos and to all my other friends I hope this helps you keep the faith and staying open to new ideas and perspectives, which is part of the magical mix in powerfully attracting your people into your life.
Share and stay tuned.........
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