Sometimes you have to be who you are not in order to know who you are.
Dating online can definitely give you that arena where you can figure out what it is that you are really looking for in a mate. As well as getting clear on what it is you do not want in a mate and will not compromise on.
A really great way to approach online dating is, " Let's see if we can have fun and get along?" As opposed to, "Is this the one?" each time you communicate with someone.
There are different reasons for different people on why they are on an online dating website. Some are looking for 'the one', some are looking for sex, some are looking for an affair, some are looking for someone to start a relationship with and to share their life. Probably many more reasons.
Each one of these reasons creates a different reality. What you put out comes back at you like a boomerang. Are your intentions coming from your higher self or are they being created with a lower vibration?
Some people believe life happens to them and do not realize that they are the common denominator, the cause of their effect. They do not realize how powerful they really are with their words, thoughts and actions.
There are consequences for every intention, thought, word and action. As you awaken there are responsibilities that come with this. If you do not think the way you treat someone, even online has consequences, think again.
This is why it is very important to get clear on your intentions before starting this online dating process. As a responsible being, that creates their own life through thought and word, the way you go about it is most important. Your approach is to speak your own truth from a place of valuing and honoring yourself first and foremost.
Figure out the values you will not compromise on, stick to it and really honor these the whole time. For me I will always value and honor myself. I will never compromise on mutual respect and clear communication. I will never compromise my own truth and what feels "right" within myself. If these values resonate with you please take them on for yourselves.
What I discovered is that I could use online dating as a tool to step into my authentic power and master myself in areas I had not yet mastered. I had been on the inner journey of self discovery since the dissolution of my marriage and had learned some incredible tools along the way that worked in revealing my limiting beliefs, as I interacted with men online I discovered more about who I really am.
Experts say that it is important to face your own issues before attracting another relationship into your life. Otherwise you will attract the same issues into your life with the next person. These issues will keep showing up until you face them and let them go. So if you are wanting to attract a healthy person into your life, you will need to get honest and clear with yourself first.
I knew that no matter how much clearing of limiting beliefs I had done on my inner journey up to this point, that interacting with that of the opposite sex or of which you are sexually attracted, will trigger emotions that would not otherwise be triggered any other way.
The tools I had learned thus far on my inner journey worked perfectly in helping me clear the way of limiting beliefs around relationship. You do not have to know where these feelings are coming from and rehash the past to do this work.
Each man that showed up online was always perfect in what was next for me to clear. None of these men had any idea on how much they were helping me on my spiritual growth. The tools I would like to share with you as your coach, are tools you will have for the rest of you journey that will serve you well.
I want to thank all the men that I interacted with online that helped me in my spiritual and personal growth. I am not the same woman that I was when I first started online dating. I have bettered myself and now know who I really am. I have never been the person I am now. Thanks to all of you.
Like the Rascal Flatts song: Bless The Broken Road. There is a grander plan always going on. We do not always understand it. The people in and out of your life that you interact with, even in cyberspace, can be your northern star in finding first yourself and then your one true love and soul mate.
Sometimes getting to where you really want to be, you have to be who you are not in order to know who you really are. Online dating can be that tool to help you understand and get clear what that is for you so you can start living your dreams come true.
~Katherine Lia
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