Soul Mate Express

Dating: Seeking To Understand Men

Many of you know of my latest adventure to the state of Oregon. It most certainly was food for my soul.

It also held the experience of me being left baffled by the man once again.

Well, as it has become obvious lately, I happen to be quite passionate in seeking to understand men and why they react the way they do to us?

Lately this is what I have been doing...... the experience with The man in Portland has been the perfect mirror for me to explore.

My thoughts in the beginning were to break the cycle that seemed to reoccur online for me with every man I have ever been interested in by doing one thing differently.

Maybe you can relate as well, ladies?

There will be a man that comes in and meets my criteria as far as you can tell by reading their profile, including body type. We will be having an interesting communication that appeals to me and then it happens........they disappear for a while.

This has been such a normal experience that bores me to death. What women want, is connection and relationship with a terrific guy. So where did he go?

What I know in my experience is he will be back a month later wanting to connect with me again and I have moved on with no more interest to connect with this man. There is the point of no return for me.

It has become so predictable and boring.

If there is no connecting what is the point for a woman? How can I get to know someone if he is not there?

It is not much fun and when there is no fun, it is clearly not for me.

More and more I am really realizing that online dating is ideal more for men than women. It is a candy store for men and perfect for how they are hardwired.

Which is not so great for a one man woman looking for a one woman man.

So I wanted it to be different with The man and I put out a request (man speak) that when he says he is going to call, then call and if he isn't sure he is going to call, to just not say anything at all would be great.

That this would truly make me happy.

I told him how boring the same ole same ole has been and wanted the path to be different for us.

Are there any other women out there that find this very thing annoying and predictable? If you're going to call, call, if not don't say anything.

My request was calm and clear.

Well I have found out a lot of valuable things on this journey of understanding men .

First I have found out that men say they are going to call and do not call as their way of playing hard to get and saying that they have a busy life.

Ok, so this is a man being a man and I will see it for what it is.

 I know there is a natural ebb and flow with man and woman, that is part of the beautiful dance of attracting the opposite sex, that I definitely get and enjoy the build up of excitement and adventure in getting to know one another.

Maybe my request was too early on in our meeting? Live and learn.

When it comes down to it if he really was the right guy this would not of been a deal breaker, right?

As I see it, a mature man would see that I had given him a gift that would surely make me happy if he were to follow this simple request.

Two days after making my request The man says, "I'll call you tomorrow."

Well I was so happy, this guy says he is going to call and he is actually going to call. Wow, this is so exciting to a woman.

As you probably guessed he did not call.

This felt like a blatant disrespect towards me, my needs and my happiness. If a man is not wanting to make a woman happy, my red flags go up. That is not normal.

So the red flags went up and I made him aware of how I felt this blatant disrespect.

Dating: To Hell and Back!

Hello everyone!

Wow, I have been to some deep and dark places recently that I have thankfully moved through fairly quickly with my own process and a little help from my loving friends.

"When you are going through hell, just keep on going!" ~Winston Churchill

Can anyone relate?

As many of you know I went to Oregon for an adventure that actually turned out to be extremely fun and enlightening at the same time.

Part of my trip was to meet the man.

Well looking back I have had to face the fact that I attracted a guy that was not in his integrity and had been leading me on the whole time.

Since I am an honest and trusting person, I look back on this experience and see that I ignored the red flags by giving him the benefit of the doubt.

It is difficult to understand dishonesty when you are not dishonest yourself.

What the heck was that?

What energy was I putting out that attracted this situation to me?

In what ways was I being dishonest with myself?

I realized that I had expectations.

Expectations = opportunity to be upset.

I Am Almost Back Home

As some of you know, I decided to take off to Portland Oregon stay with a friend and meet with a man I have been talking with online and on the phone.

I was taking a risk, which is sometimes what you need to do in order for things to happen in your life.I set it up in such a way that I had independence and if things did not work out I would have fun regardless.

Well right away, just before I was about to leave there was a misunderstanding between us and it was unknown if I would even meet him at all?

We ended up speaking the night before my flight which at that point I wasn't sure if I would hear from him at all? So that made it interesting right off the bat.

We changed our original plans completely.

I met a woman on my flight there that sat beside me. We hit it off right away making the flight a whole lot of fun. She was interested in my adventure that I was on and wants to keep in touch. So we will.

I have a new friend. One of the things that often happens is I get a lot of validation from the Universe telling me that I have made the right choice, no matter what happens. It starts off in the airport with many things happening easily and in the flow.

Usually I make a new friend and my luggage is waiting for me without effort. Well it happened again. I love when that happens.

Ok, so I arrive in Portland say fair well to my new friend for now and meet up with my dear friend Terry whom had come to pick me up at the airport. We go back to his beautiful home in the woods to settle in and strategically come up with a plan that would work for both of us.

Big, Bold and Beautiful

As you all know I have been taking this time to raise my vibration for me to move to the next template, so I may hold authentic space, first for myself and then for my children, my friends and family and for my clients.

I have this very deep peaceful knowing that I have broken through to a place that is where I need to be right now to do this Divine work that is so me, that I have so much passion for.

I am here right now exactly where I need to be. As you are exactly where you need to be in this moment.

It is an amazing place to be, that leaves me truly grateful.

This universe has been created so beautifully for you to understand the magnificence of who you really are and appreciate love so much more.

I am humbled by it's beauty. We are all so loved.

I am again taking some time off to travel to the beautiful Portland, Oregon coast. A place I have always desired to go and visit.

I dream of eating fresh seafood and walking amongst the many variations of roses, so I may stop and smell them when I desire to increase my endorphins and to be open to receive.

I was not going to let you in on a little secret at first because I have no idea what this new adventure will bring but I will be meeting a very special man soon for the very first time.

I met him online a month ago, the day I said, yes to immersing myself into this inner journey of abundance of wealth, love and prosperity.

I am both excited and nervous. This is my big, bold and beautiful next action step.

I can assure you that I will be safe. I have friends that live there that will be my support, so no matter what I will be having a very fun and fabulous time.

I have set this meeting up in a way that completely honors and values me by getting all my needs met first.

I am in this place of complete surrender to our creator because I know that if this man is not the one then the next one that is sent into my life is sure to be better suited to all that I desire.

Which is incredible since this man looks like a movie star and has the most personable, fun loving personality than anyone I have ever met.

So woo hoo for me!!!!!!!! This is worth celebrating for sure.

If this man is the one great, if he is not the one, great!

It is because of our interactions that I have already started writing my second book.

The first book will be out soon and ready for you to purchase. I will tell you more about it upon my return.

It is called, 'Online Dating As A mirror to Your Soul."

Wish me luck!

I will let you know how it went when I get back. ;-)

What are you doing as a way to always honor and value yourself first?

What do you need to let go  of in order to allow for something new to come in to your life.

Are your needs being met by you first? What can you do right now to get your needs met?

Are you taking the time to celebrate your every step, how ever big or however small?

It all adds up to you living your authentic life, with passion the way it was meant to be, by you making your true presence bigger and blessing the world with your uniqueness.

What is your next bold action step in moving forward into your dreams?

How are you stopping to smell the roses in your life now and being open to receive the abundance that is inevitable in every moment.

What support do you need around you to compliment your desires and keep you accountable so you will continue to enjoy the journey?

Talk to you soon!

Namaste,
     Katherine Lia

Nurture, Rejuvenate and Allow

I have been immersed in the 40day and 40night program for 16 days now.

I have been clearing out all kinds of energy that is no longer serving me at an intense level these days.

The experience has been nothing short of amazing.

I feel that I have grown so much in such a short span of time.

The reason why I have not written very much lately is simply because I have committed myself to doing this inner work for me.

I have organized my schedule so that I have plenty of time for me to let go, nurture, allow, integrate and rejuvenate this energy.

I have been stepping into more of who I really am more and more.

I have been blessed with much clarity and blessing along the way.

Wednesday is, "All about me day." My children know it as well and know to let Mom alone so she may do what ever she feels like.

This in turn, models for my children the importance of taking time out to honor and value your own needs, so as to fill yourself up first in order to have an abundance of your special energy to share with others, easily and with grace.

So today is all about me day and my children are camping in the Southern Utah desert where I will join them for a long weekend.

The desert provides a spiritual place for me to continue this nurturing, rejuvenation of energy and allowing what is to be.

Also to be grateful for my beautiful surroundings and what I have in this moment right now.

Ahhhhhh! I already feel like a new person and i hope this inspires you to take the time just for you.

Namaste,

~Katherine Lia

Abundance Through Moving Energy Is The Way To Go

I recently contacted a recent client of mine and wrote her a letter of congrats.

                                                                    

Dear Connie,

I recently heard that you sold 12 paintings in one day and I say wow and congratulations from a huge place in my heart.

That must of been quite a feeling of accomplishment. This is awesome and needs to be celebrated.

A very typical outcome after having gone through a Financial Alchemy process is a first time type experience of experiencing something like the biggest check ever coming your way or checks coming from unexpected resources.

Like magic!

It happens all the time, just go to Morgana's site and read all the testimonials and life changing moments.     http://www.MorganaRae.com

Everything is energy. Money is energy. Money is neutral. It is just the current medium of exchange according to Websters Dictionary.

We as humans in the past have added layers and layers of other meaning to money, limiting beliefs and negative thoughts which all create your reality unconsciously. All adding up to an ugly monster that does not serve you and can sometimes harm you.

 It holds you back from creating your dreams.

When Anxiety Bubbles Up

I went out for a walk surrounded by the beautiful mountains in Utah.

On the way I stopped off at the bank.

They found out that I was a Life Coach and helped people understand how to move energy, to let go of what is no longer serving them and replace it with energy that does.

They asked me to do a talk at their work to help their employees with their anxiety issues.

I said," Sure, anxiety is an energy that when you know what to do with it, to move it through you and let it go, it can get you on a spiritual path faster than most energies can."

It will allow you to know more of who you really are and free up your energy so you can now focus it on things that you love to surround you in your life.

Relax into it as much as you can and breathe

Do not resist it.

Allow it to come up and know you are letting that energy that came up to be let go for good.

Your energy is bubbling up not to torture you but to say, I am here in your awareness right now so you can let me go.

Once you let go of the anxiety you replace it with unconditional sacred love and more of who you really are will be revealed.

Next time you are feeling anxious, relax and breathe.

Do not hold your breathe or else you are just holding on to the anxiety within you, to pop up again when you least desire it to.

Breathe and let go.

Trust the unfolding.

Have faith that you will know what you need to when you get to the other side of this, which is not always easy when you first trust this.

As you practice, it gets easier. 

You get to experience the magnificence of you that much more.

Quantum Immersion Of Infinite Prosperity and Abundance

I came upon David and Kristin Morelli's website seemingly by coincidence.

Since there is no such thing as coincidence, as you are reading this, it is no coincidence that you are here right now either.

David and Kristin have the most incredible high vibrating abundant energy felt. They are willing to share everything with you.

David and Kristin Morelli have come out of retirement as multimillionaires for a one time offer of 40 days and 40 nights program to help as many people as they can to make the quantum leap into a life of prosperity and abundance.

It starts Tuesday, so there is a limited time. They both state that this is a one time only opportunity to work with them in this capacity again.

So sign up now. Click on the link below to find out more, without any obligations. They offer the most wonderful and simple energy tools for f*ree.

40 days 40 nights program

David is an energy expert as a Master Reiki Practitioner and Life Coach, that has immersed himself into energy work for many years, as I also have.

Kristin became a multimillionaire by the time she was 30 yrs old where she retired for life. Or so she thought.

Everything is energy!

David and Kristin have their radio show, "Everything is energy" and speak with the great experts of our time.

I hope to experience this opportunity with all of you.

Sign up now! Check this link out and get your f*ree energy tools, without any obligations.

Do not delay, for this is time sensitive. Remember there is no obligation.

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~Namaste,
      Katherine Lia

Unleashing Your Life Purpose And Passion

Do you know what your life purpose is?

Many today are feeling the restlessness that is sweeping the planet.

Do you feel an underlying deep knowing that you were meant for more than what you are doing now?

You are not alone.

As I went through my own adversity and uncovered my unconscious limiting beliefs and counter intentions that were clouding over my clarity, I learned to let them go energetically.

Everything is energy. Quantum physics shows you this.

Your solid physical form when put under a microscope is an illusion and what you see is moving energy.

We as human beings are really bundles of intelligent Divine energy.

The smallest measurement that we can capture at this time is called a photon.

Is it a wave or is it a particle?

Scientist found that by watching the experiment with the intention that it was a particle, that very consciousness observing it collapsed any other possibilities and it became a particle.

When unobserved that photon became a wave and baffled the scientists with amazement and intrigue.

How could this be?

They found that it went in and out of physical form depending on observation and conscious awareness.

Energetic clearing can be instantaneous and is very powerful.

You will know more of who you really are and confidently move forward and relax in that.

As I trusted the unfolding and got out of my own way, I also became very clear of what my purpose on this planet truly is.

There is a passion, an aliveness, a true sense of well being and fulfillment that unleashes and bubbles up from your core of being, as you align with your truth and step into your authentic power.

My passion is to co-create with you and guide you to knowing your true self and living your dreams come true.

True wealth, health and fulfillment comes while sharing your gifts and talents with others and where true prosperity and abundance will inevitably follow.

I am a masterful intuitive Life Coach and Registered Nurse that specializes in energy work and have many powerful tangible tools to share that work like magic.

I visualize giving you the life long tools you will need to have for the rest of your journey so you will flourish, attract wealth and attract your one true love on a path of joy and creation.

Send me an email today for a strategy session to specifically meet your unique and magnificent needs.

katherine@soulmate-express.com

Love and light,
   Katherine Lia

"Steve Harvey, We Ladies Love You! Thank you."

A book review:

Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man
 What men really think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment.
By Steve Harvey

"Steve Harvey, I love you.You are as cute as it gets with your devilish charm."

He is so damn cute with those dimples and how he wants to help out the ladies of the world.

It is no longer a secret. Steve let the cat out of the bag.

I highly recommend this book for all of you ladies out there wanting to be aligned with your power and truth and change your relationship with men to be more rewarding.

This is what I've been talking about ladies. Raising your standards and in turn the men will have to step up their game, making it so that the results being, we all, men and women, will feel more fulfilled and satisfied in relationships.

Now it is a mans' point of view. This is what men think they do not want you to know and turns out it is for their own good.

Steve says,

Every man has a plan. A lady deserves to know what your plan is.

He uses the clever metaphor of,  Men are all fishermen. Sports fishermen and trophy fishermen, the keepers. You have got to present yourself with your standards and quit lowering your standards. Set your requirements up front, so when the guy hooks you and reels you in, he has got to know that this is business. "You hook me, we are going in the boat and we are going home."

If you want to present as the throw back fish then you will be thrown back in.

Men are simple creatures (this is important to get) and only need 3 things:

1. Support in their venture and pursuit of purpose, of who they are, what they do and how much money they make.
2. Loyalty of love and that you belong to him and....
3. The Cookie

He talks about the three P's:

1. A man's love is not like ours. Men show their love by Professing that you are theirs by giving you a title, "This is my lady", he has just placed you in the most special part of his heart. It is an unwritten rule amongst men that, "This is my lady" means, she is off limits. If he introduces you as a friend then Steve says you mean nothing to him and suggests you move on because you deserve better than that.

2. Providing for his women comes next, that once he has claimed you and you have returned the favor, his purpose is to bring home the bacon.

3. Protect you, is a part of a real mans' nature and is very attractive to us women.

I get from Steve that we as independent women need to allow for our men to feel motivated to profess their love to us by setting high standards up front, provide for us in some way like letting him romance us and relax into that and to motivate him to want to protect us.

 If we put ourselves forward in a way that says, "We do not need a man." Then that man will feel that energetically and pass you by or throw you back in.

Steve says, It is the woman that determines the standards and controls everything. Whether there is sex, a date or touch. men can not kiss you or hold your hand unless you let them.

Chivalry is not dead. Women set this standard and must raise the bar, it just has not been a requirement lately.

I say, "Do not relinquish all the power to get outside acceptance from another person."

Keep your standards up, say if you want to be with me this is what you have to do. This is what it will take to get me.

The 90 day rule:

No sex for 90 days. There is a probation period just like when you start a new job. Before they get the benefits of The Cookie, you must check out if whether they are worthy or not. Slow down, you can not drive men away.

Men know that we are always changing the rules, they are aware of how women act desperate, and that women think there is a shortage of good men.

Men play on this.

Men created the word Gold Digger, so women will not ask us for nothing. Also we invented the word nagging so that you will quit badgering us and require less of us.

"We need to talk", is the worse term you can use. You just drove a nail in his forehead. If you want to talk call your friends. Men will want to fix it.

Great advice Steve and thanks so much for sharing.

I say, get the book and pass it on to friends and daughters. It is really funny, informative, entertaining and well intentioned, for the goodness of the whole in mind.

It was easy reading. I read it in a day and really enjoyed it.

~Katherine Lia