Dating: Seeking To Understand Men
Many of you know of my latest adventure to the state of Oregon. It most certainly was food for my soul.
It also held the experience of me being left baffled by the man once again.
Well, as it has become obvious lately, I happen to be quite passionate in seeking to understand men and why they react the way they do to us?
Lately this is what I have been doing...... the experience with The man in Portland has been the perfect mirror for me to explore.
My thoughts in the beginning were to break the cycle that seemed to reoccur online for me with every man I have ever been interested in by doing one thing differently.
Maybe you can relate as well, ladies?
There will be a man that comes in and meets my criteria as far as you can tell by reading their profile, including body type. We will be having an interesting communication that appeals to me and then it happens........they disappear for a while.
This has been such a normal experience that bores me to death. What women want, is connection and relationship with a terrific guy. So where did he go?
What I know in my experience is he will be back a month later wanting to connect with me again and I have moved on with no more interest to connect with this man. There is the point of no return for me.
It has become so predictable and boring.
If there is no connecting what is the point for a woman? How can I get to know someone if he is not there?
It is not much fun and when there is no fun, it is clearly not for me.
More and more I am really realizing that online dating is ideal more for men than women. It is a candy store for men and perfect for how they are hardwired.
Which is not so great for a one man woman looking for a one woman man.
So I wanted it to be different with The man and I put out a request (man speak) that when he says he is going to call, then call and if he isn't sure he is going to call, to just not say anything at all would be great.
That this would truly make me happy.
I told him how boring the same ole same ole has been and wanted the path to be different for us.
Are there any other women out there that find this very thing annoying and predictable? If you're going to call, call, if not don't say anything.
My request was calm and clear.
Well I have found out a lot of valuable things on this journey of understanding men .
First I have found out that men say they are going to call and do not call as their way of playing hard to get and saying that they have a busy life.
Ok, so this is a man being a man and I will see it for what it is.
I know there is a natural ebb and flow with man and woman, that is part of the beautiful dance of attracting the opposite sex, that I definitely get and enjoy the build up of excitement and adventure in getting to know one another.
Maybe my request was too early on in our meeting? Live and learn.
When it comes down to it if he really was the right guy this would not of been a deal breaker, right?
As I see it, a mature man would see that I had given him a gift that would surely make me happy if he were to follow this simple request.
Two days after making my request The man says, "I'll call you tomorrow."
Well I was so happy, this guy says he is going to call and he is actually going to call. Wow, this is so exciting to a woman.
As you probably guessed he did not call.
This felt like a blatant disrespect towards me, my needs and my happiness. If a man is not wanting to make a woman happy, my red flags go up. That is not normal.
So the red flags went up and I made him aware of how I felt this blatant disrespect.








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